BCF • Love Maintenance: Part 2 By Margo Hudson

Love Maintenance: Part 2
By Margo Hudson
http://Margohudson.com

“True Self-Esteem diminishes once you start searching outside of yourself to establish your Self-Worth or experience Love.” - Margo Hudson

Do you know your worth? Well, how you perceive your worth from deep inside is very important in revealing what could be lying at the core of your relationship issues and beyond, starting with you. Although you may not think about it often or at all, we’re all born and shaped through the first years of our lives, as we’re programmed with “rules of life” so to speak. Our lives are willed almost completely by others. Everything is passed down to us, from our religion to our views on food, life, people and ourselves. One of the most important things they give us, whether they realize it or not, is our value.

Your self-worth is further established later in life as an extension of that original value that our parents and caretakers infused in us from the start. Where it gets complicated is if you were treated poorly by your parents/ guardians, the very people you trusted to love, respect and take good care of you… you could experience great difficulty in love and other aspects of your life. Besides trust issues, deep down you might not believe you’re worthy of love and may actually not know what it looks like. Love is hard to accurately recognize when you do not know what it is. You may even take comfort in the familiarity of a relationship with someone who reinforces that feeling of unworthiness from childhood.

An abundance of people spend their lifetimes in need of healing from this kind of pain but never realizing it. Some are aware, but doing nothing about it. Others seek healing solutions in all the wrong places in a desperate effort to lessen the pain as they unknowingly create more problems for themselves. Although suffering may be an option, you don’t have to continue choosing it. You can take control of your healing process and increase the quality of your life whenever you’re ready. Great self-help books and quality counseling can help you really turn things around. It will require Desire, Persistence, and Dedication on your part.

You’re born worthy of love and all good things this life has to offer! You were worthy as a child, and you’re worthy now. The whole you, including the parts you or others may deem imperfect or broken… you’re still worthy. God made no mistakes in creating beautiful you. Your distinct pattern is divine in nature, and there is no one else like you. You are perfectly YOU, and here to serve special-purposes, no matter the size. Your existence impacts all who cross your path, even if on a small scale and you are completely unaware. It is time to connect with your true worth and transform your life from the inside out!

Maintenance factor I
reprogram: REESTABLISHING YOU

As you mature with life experience and become a more powerful willful being, it’s your responsibility to take the necessary steps in reestablishing YOU. Restoring balance within based on who you really are at this point in your life is at the heart of things. Maintenance is necessary. Even our high-tech devices run smoother, once they’ve have had their updates. Time for your maintenance update!

A. Pay close attention to any negative self talk you may be allowing to live inside of your head and roll off of your tongue. Stop yourself when you catch it, then replace it with a positive opposite. B. Make a conscious effort to choose living in the now, instead of your painful past. At your own pace, start facing your issues one by one and begin working through the inner turmoil created by your painful past experiences.

The healing process can be hard to sort and work through alone depending on the severity of the injury. Although it’s possible to do a certain amount of the work on your own, I recommend locating a highly recommended therapist or psychiatric professional in your area through a reputable referral service or referrals from friends or family, to assist you with this very powerful and rewarding process. Therapy can be very successful when you’re willing to participate and you’re paired with the right professional for you. Be patient with the pairing process, because it could take additional research and trying more than one before getting it right.

Also, never discount the power of faith infused prayer. It can provide a greater level of focus, comfort, & peace of mind, producing results that are unrivaled. ~

Maintenance factor 2
action: NEW VALUES = NEW CHOICES & DECISIONS

The healing you began to achieve naturally increases your “esteem for self.” You’ll have a natural desire to stand up for yourself, and do what’s best for you no matter what anybody thinks about it. You’re now able to trust yourself to make better decisions for you. Additionally, since love is a choice, only you can set yourself free to love. It requires a free mind and your ability to allow someone to love and accept the real you, and your ability to love and accept the real them. Know that the real authentic you will always be far more attractive than any alter ego you could ever hide behind, to the right person. A healthy choice in a mate is someone who genuinely loves you, as is, with acceptance and respect.

Maintenance factor 3
benefits: WEALTH

There are great benefits to increasing your self-esteem! If you don’t give up, you’ll experience them for yourself. As you grow and develop yourself you’ll discover that you’re caring more about yourself and your environment in ways that you never did before. You won’t allow people to treat you cheaply. You’ll now know your value, and this is true wealth. Congratulations, the new improved “more valuable” you is on the horizon! These new values you’re developing will inspire better choices and decisions at the core of your everyday life including the love department.

Although the pain you survived in the past may have seemed unbearable when it happened, remember… future experiences don’t all have to be repeats of the past pain you‘ve experienced unless you choose them to be. Keeping your head and heart open to the possibility of a gratifying love relationship, makes it a real possibility. ~

May the love and information in this article and every article I write, continue inspiring positive life changes for you on your path to healing and personal growth this year. Be sure to tune-in to my new radio show: "Destination Love Life™" on LATalkLive.com & iTunes radio RnB, Monday's 10:00 AM - 12:00 PM premiering February 6th, 2012!




	Love Maintenance: Part 2 By Margo Hudson http://Margohudson.com “True Self-Esteem diminishes once you start searching outside of yourself to establish your Self-Worth or experience Love.” - Margo Hudson Do you know your worth? Well, how you perceive your worth from deep inside is very important in revealing what could be lying at the core of your relationship issues and beyond, starting with you. Although you may not think about it often or at all, we’re all born and shaped through the first years of our lives, as we’re programmed with “rules of life” so to speak. Our lives are willed almost completely by others. Everything is passed down to us, from our religion to our views on food, life, people and ourselves. One of the most important things they give us, whether they realize it or not, is our value. Your self-worth is further established later in life as an extension of that original value that our parents and caretakers infused in us from the start. Where it gets complicated is if you were treated poorly by your parents/ guardians, the very people you trusted to love, respect and take good care of you… you could experience great difficulty in love and other aspects of your life. Besides trust issues, deep down you might not believe you’re worthy of love and may actually not know what it looks like. Love is hard to accurately recognize when you do not know what it is. You may even take comfort in the familiarity of a relationship with someone who reinforces that feeling of unworthiness from childhood. An abundance of people spend their lifetimes in need of healing from this kind of pain but never realizing it. Some are aware, but doing nothing about it. Others seek healing solutions in all the wrong places in a desperate effort to lessen the pain as they unknowingly create more problems for themselves. Although suffering may be an option, you don’t have to continue choosing it. You can take control of your healing process and increase the quality of your life whenever you’re ready. Great self-help books and quality counseling can help you really turn things around. It will require Desire, Persistence, and Dedication on your part. You’re born worthy of love and all good things this life has to offer! You were worthy as a child, and you’re worthy now. The whole you, including the parts you or others may deem imperfect or broken… you’re still worthy. God made no mistakes in creating beautiful you. Your distinct pattern is divine in nature, and there is no one else like you. You are perfectly YOU, and here to serve special-purposes, no matter the size. Your existence impacts all who cross your path, even if on a small scale and you are completely unaware. It is time to connect with your true worth and transform your life from the inside out! Maintenance factor I reprogram: REESTABLISHING YOU As you mature with life experience and become a more powerful willful being, it’s your responsibility to take the necessary steps in reestablishing YOU. Restoring balance within based on who you really are at this point in your life is at the heart of things. Maintenance is necessary. Even our high-tech devices run smoother, once they’ve have had their updates. Time for your maintenance update! A. Pay close attention to any negative self talk you may be allowing to live inside of your head and roll off of your tongue. Stop yourself when you catch it, then replace it with a positive opposite. B. Make a conscious effort to choose living in the now, instead of your painful past. At your own pace, start facing your issues one by one and begin working through the inner turmoil created by your painful past experiences. The healing process can be hard to sort and work through alone depending on the severity of the injury. Although it’s possible to do a certain amount of the work on your own, I recommend locating a highly recommended therapist or psychiatric professional in your area through a reputable referral service or referrals from friends or family, to assist you with this very powerful and rewarding process. Therapy can be very successful when you’re willing to participate and you’re paired with the right professional for you. Be patient with the pairing process, because it could take additional research and trying more than one before getting it right. Also, never discount the power of faith infused prayer. It can provide a greater level of focus, comfort, & peace of mind, producing results that are unrivaled. ~ Maintenance factor 2 action: NEW VALUES = NEW CHOICES & DECISIONS The healing you began to achieve naturally increases your “esteem for self.” You’ll have a natural desire to stand up for yourself, and do what’s best for you no matter what anybody thinks about it. You’re now able to trust yourself to make better decisions for you. Additionally, since love is a choice, only you can set yourself free to love. It requires a free mind and your ability to allow someone to love and accept the real you, and your ability to love and accept the real them. Know that the real authentic you will always be far more attractive than any alter ego you could ever hide behind, to the right person. A healthy choice in a mate is someone who genuinely loves you, as is, with acceptance and respect. Maintenance factor 3 benefits: WEALTH There are great benefits to increasing your self-esteem! If you don’t give up, you’ll experience them for yourself. As you grow and develop yourself you’ll discover that you’re caring more about yourself and your environment in ways that you never did before. You won’t allow people to treat you cheaply. You’ll now know your value, and this is true wealth. Congratulations, the new improved “more valuable” you is on the horizon! These new values you’re developing will inspire better choices and decisions at the core of your everyday life including the love department. Although the pain you survived in the past may have seemed unbearable when it happened, remember… future experiences don’t all have to be repeats of the past pain you‘ve experienced unless you choose them to be. Keeping your head and heart open to the possibility of a gratifying love relationship, makes it a real possibility. ~ May the love and information in this article and every article I write, continue inspiring positive life changes for you on your path to healing and personal growth this year. Be sure to tune-in to my new radio show: "Destination Love Life™" on LATalkLive.com & iTunes radio RnB, Monday's 10:00 AM - 12:00 PM premiering February 6th, 2012!
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