ACHIEVING YOUR P.S. FACTOR
By: Demita Usher
Have you ever read or heard something that just hit you in the core of your being accompanied with the revelation, comes a trail of thoughts that click together like the right pieces on a jigsaw puzzle? You get an epiphany, a moment of clarity. You take the red pill and go tumbling down the rabbit hole where more truth is revealed. (My fellow matrix fans can relate) Well that is what happened to me and it is what inspired this article. While shopping in Barnes and Noble I came across a book by a well known celebrity giving advice on how to be sexy. One of the things she said in the book was "sexy is personal". When I read that it hit me like ton of bricks; personal? What was she saying? Do we all have a P.S. (personal sexy) factor? You mean to say that while I have been admiring famous sexy women and men in magazines, television, and movies I have it too? We all have it? Not just Denzel? Halle? Angelina? It is not in a pill or a bottle? I put the book down on the table and began to ponder this deeper. I realized sexy is indeed personal, and the reason why we don't recognize it in ourselves is because everyone's P.S. factor is unique and expressed differently.
I have to admit because of my conservative upbringing, the word sexy scared me. I saw the four-letter word and I automatically thought of short skirts, low cut blouses, the red-light district, too much make up with lusty sex-crazed men chasing you down the street! So for most of my adult life, I avoided any identification with that word. (Being the granddaughter of a minister makes you avoid a lot of things) As I matured, I realized the characteristics that I found sexy in others had nothing to do with those things I previously thought. After reading this celebrity's view of it, I decided to look up the word sexy in the dictionary and was pleasantly surprised to find there were two meanings of the word. The first most commonly known definition read, "sexually suggestive or stimulating", but the second definition read "generally attractive or interesting". We all posses traits and qualities that make us interesting and attractive; our P.S. Factor is what draws people to us and it is not always sexual.
As I continued down the rabbit hole, I realized that our P.S. Factors are not based on externals alone. We tend to focus on the outer appearance with the influence of entertainment shows, red carpet events, and airbrushed/photo shopped magazine spreads. While it is one element it is not all inclusive and to sell the notion that only a few have it or it only includes certain things; looks, gender, race, etc. does a disservice to those who take the bait and thereby dismiss their P.S. Factor believing it to be non-existent.
Ok now we know that our P.S. Factor is our responsibility, I have listed some ways to kick start it into gear:
Music Give yourself a theme song, your signature. Everyone knows the James Bond and Austin Powers' theme song is the Soul Bossa Nova by Quincy Jones (Groovy Baby!)
Pretty Lingerie
Never underestimate the power of pretty lace over cotton. Others will not know you are wearing it, but you will, and it will bring out your girly side.
Name Change
Tara Leigh Patrick (Carmen Electra), Yvette Stevens (Chaka Khan), Anna Mae Bullock (Tina Turner), Heather Sweet (Dita Von Teese) what a difference a name makes!
Self-Pampering
Manicure/Pedicure, facial, a new hairstyle, great make-up, bubble baths etc. My father once told me the sexiest thing a woman can do is take good care of herself!
Perfume
Rock a signature scent for yourself, like your theme song
Shoes
A great pair of heels can inspire you to walk a little differently; a catwalk is so P.S
A Mentor
Find inspiration from an icon, i.e. Dorothy Dandridge and Bettie Page.
Praise
Praising The Most High is the most important P.S. booster of all. The bible says we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Ps. 139:14) so why not give praise to the one who gave you your P.S. factor in the first place while speaking His words of life over you daily!
So what does someone's P.S look like? It can be a myriad of things from a physical attribute, moral character, a style of dress, a heroic action or deed and the list goes on. It manifests itself in different ways but at the end of the day it is still ours, our own unique magnetic pulse. Like snowflakes, your P.S factor is expressed to compliment the situation and no two are alike.
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