Fathers, or at minimum father figures, tend to stress to their daughters the importance in watching out for danger and providing her with the healthy love she will desire from a man during the impressionable years of her life. A father is also responsible for raising a God-fearing sensible son who exudes respect and consideration for himself and those around them. They also set the example for their sons in being men who use compassion and understanding, especially when dealing with women. Mothers are just as essential as fathers, as they should be examples of strength, pride and class for their daughters to emulate. Mothers should also demand and challenge their sons to take responsibility, honor, and cherish women while seeing the mother, sister, and friend in them all.
I In the long run, women must take charge of their own lives and exercise patience, discernment, intellect and prayer in the course of dating and dealing with men, especially those with whom they seek to have an intimate relationship. Your no BS disposition and command for the substance of a man to accompany his physical attraction to you must be stern and absolute. Cut it off right away and keep it moving if he doesn't get it or doesn't want to get it. Ironcially, much of your freedom to love comes from never being too quick to love and putting all your cards on the table. Allow him to pursue you and prove through his actions that he is who he says he is. Keep in mind that innately men are predators who sometimes only see women are prey. For a man to date and consume countless women might not affect him on the same level that it will affect a woman. The emotional (dis)-connection and invasion of a woman’s heart, mind and body leaves her feeling violated and vulnerable. Too many failed, flawed or negative relationships will take its toll on a woman’s faith; her desire for a relationship or her belief that good relationships even exists. So if no one else uses caution when dealing with you, make sure you use caution and understand why it is important for you to do so. Be cool and steadfast in the middle of that firestorm. In the mean time, know that there are men of valor out there waiting on the smoke to clear so that they can take a hold of you with one hand and perhaps present you with the “key” to your heart with the other - - freeing you to explore the journey of life together.